Thinking about the future is something many of us quietly put off. Yet setting out your wishes for your health and care, while you are well and able to think clearly, is one of the kindest gifts you can give both yourself and your family. This is what advance care planning is all about, and it does not need to be daunting.
What advance care planning means
Advance care planning simply means thinking about, and writing down, the kind of care you would want if you became unwell and could not speak for yourself. It might include who you would like to make decisions on your behalf, the treatments you would or would not want, and what matters most to you in daily life. Putting this in writing helps make sure your voice is heard, even at a time when you may not be able to express it yourself.
Why it brings peace of mind
Families often say that the greatest comfort of a plan is not having to guess. When your wishes are clear, loved ones are spared the worry of wondering whether they are making the right choice. A plan can lift a heavy weight from the people you care about, and it can give you the reassurance of knowing your preferences are understood. Rather than being a sad task, many people find it a relief once it is done.
What you might include
A plan can be as simple or as detailed as you wish. Many people begin by naming a substitute decision maker, someone they trust to speak for them if they cannot speak for themselves. You might note your preferences about where you would like to be cared for, any treatments you feel strongly about, and the everyday things that bring you comfort, such as familiar music, a view of the garden, or having family nearby. There is no right or wrong content. The value lies in setting down what matters to you, in your own words, so that those caring for you can honour your wishes.
How to start the conversation
You do not need to cover everything at once. A gentle way to begin is over a cup of tea with someone you trust, perhaps saying that you have been thinking about the future and would like to share a few thoughts. You might start with what is important to you, such as staying at home for as long as possible, or being surrounded by family. Small, unhurried conversations, returned to over time, often work better than one long discussion.
Where to find help
You do not have to do this alone. Advance Care Planning Australia offers free, easy to follow information and forms, and your GP can help you record your wishes properly. It is also worth knowing that a plan is not set in stone. You can review and update it whenever your circumstances or feelings change, so it always reflects what matters to you now.
Taking that first small step, whether it is a chat with a loved one or a call to your GP, is something you may well feel glad you did. Planning ahead is not about dwelling on the end. It is about living with a little more peace in the present.
Important Note
This article is general information only and is not legal or medical advice. Please speak with your GP or a trusted service such as Advance Care Planning Australia about your own situation.